Ask Dr.Dot: Sex Advice

A. It sounds to me like you and your cock are very dehydrated. When a person isn’t drinking enough water, the body tends to get selfish and holds onto every drop of fluid it has. Avoid excess coffee and tea, which simply dry you up from the inside out. Drink at least eight glasses of water a day and go to an urologist to have the “blockage” checked out. Blockages can occur as a result of infections – including STDs – and can be cleared up by taking antibiotics. If you have a structural blockage, you may need to undergo minor surgery. So a trip to the ‘Cock Doc’ and drinking more healthy fluids should cool you and your hot willy off, and make ejaculation easier.

A. The good news is, men can forgive. But they don’t forget. If he really loved you, he may give you another chance. The other girls may be different and new to him, but sometimes a history between two people can mean more than fresh meat. You could send him a real letter – not an email – and tell him you are sorry and that you know for sure that leaving him was a grave mistake. Mention that sometimes it takes such a stupid move to make someone realize how good they had it and how grateful they should be for what they have/had: the grass always seems greener but it isn’t, yadda yadda yadda… Make it short, sweet and to the point. He won’t want to read a book, just one short page about how you would love to see him again. But that’s all you can do. Do NOT call him, as you may catch him at a really bad time and that could make things worse. A letter is less threatening and gives him time to think. You may want to slip an old picture of you both into the letter to spark memories (and maybe a recent sexy portrait, too). If he doesn’t answer you, it means he’s moved on and nothing can change a man’s mind. If he does start shagging round your social circle, you’ll just have to write him off as “the one that got away” – but remember they are experiencing your leftovers.

A. She needs to know how to make herself cum before she can cum with you. Ask her nicely how she makes herself cum: if she says she can’t, there is your answer. It’s not you, it’s her. If she says she can and tells you how, ask her to show you how she does it. Then try to integrate that method into your fuck fest. If she doesn’t know how to cum (some women just don’t), then bring her ass to the edge of the bed, kneel on some pillows and lick her clitoris for as long as it takes. Don’t worry about sticking your fingers in there. Just concentrate on making long, firm, constant strokes with your tongue spread as wide as you can make it. Lick south to north and vice versa, and check in with her once in a while to ask if that’s the right spot/rhythm. Don’t let up until she cums. It could take a while, but if that is your goal, you have to hang in there. Make her cum first, then you won’t have to worry about how long it takes you. It didn’t sound like she was complaining about you taking forever to cum – some girls like a long ride. And women can enjoy sex without climaxing. We don’t have to climax every time to enjoy it, like most men do.